You know what you’re always going to be surrounded by, in this world? Free food.
It’s everywhere.
It’s in the supermarket as little free samples of cheese, it’s in other people’s homes as snacks and nibbles, it’s in offices as birthday cake or it’s in 2 for 1 deals when you’re ordering pizza, like, buy this huge four cheeses and get this garlic pizza bread thrown in for free. People are always trying to give you free food, in some form, for some reason. Mostly because it’s one of the ways we show we care about each other. If you love them, feed them – isn’t that how the saying goes?
Now, that’s all good and well, but if you’re trying to rid yourself of a food obsession (and some of the junk you’ve got stashed in your trunk), it’s no good to just opening wide every time someone offers you something to eat. You have to be able to say no to it. Because it’s not only a nibble of something tiny – it’s reinforcing the thought in your brain that you can’t control yourself around food. It’s cementing this as fact via actual grooves in your brain, making the neural pathways that deliver this message thicker and stronger and more robust.
Naturally thin people say no to free food. They don’t care about the sample of cheese on a Ritz cracker that the supermarket is trying to flog. They don’t dive into the bowl of popcorn, just because it’s there. They ignore everything that isn’t going to satisfy their hunger (if there’s none to satisfy), nor nourish them. They just don’t, and you have to adopt their attitude if you want to become like one of them and be all easy-breezy about food.
So, here’s how you do it.
You create, in your mind, right now, a policy of saying NO. It’s your policy that you don’t accept free food, ever. You don’t decline because you’re “on a diet” (people will continue to push food on you if you say that, thinking they’re doing you a favour by pretending you don’t look like a heffalump). You don’t decline because you “don’t want to ruin your appetite for later” (again, this is an excuse that’ll be argued against, like “what?? This tiny handful of peanuts!? This couldn’t feed a hamster!”). You say no because that’s simply what you do. It’s your policy. You don’t accept free food. You say no to all food, all the time, other than at meal times or when you’re genuinely hungry. (I mean, you don’t tell them about your policy, it’s a secret policy. You just set it up in your mind and live by its rules).
Because let me tell you something, this is actually far easier than trying to find a way to moderate AKA squeeze a little of the something in because why not, it looks delicious. It’s much, much, much, much, much harder to say no to the second nibble, when you’ve already caved and had the first nibble, trust me (not that I’m a doctor).
And you don’t need to feel sad about it, or bad about it, or like life is just one long, unfair crap show where you never get to enjoy the little tasty treats in life like everyone else because … this is a wonderful opportunity to become the super-human that is your destiny. It literally strengthens the power you have to gain control over your own mind, and that is the master–key to all life’s riches. Seriously, it’s “the secret” in Think and Grow Rich (you know that book that contains the Carnegie “secret” that isn’t explicitly stated but is alluded to throughout?).
When you have gained complete mastery over your own mind – whereby you choose what thoughts and feelings you are going to experience and which you are going to leave to blow through, you have gained control of everything. And that, my friend, makes you an extremely powerful human indeed.
Most people don’t recognise this power is theirs for the taking. They don’t realise we live in a thought created reality, so having control of our thoughts gives us control of that reality. And sometimes even when they do even know this power is there, they don’t have the self-discipline necessary to practice using it. So they continue being blown about the place, their minds leading them around like a dog on a lead.
When their thoughts are up they feel good and happy and can cope with the fact that their internet is not working and there’s a stink in the fridge that won’t die. When their thoughts are down, well, down they go too and there’s no internet and there’s a stink in the fridge that not even bicarb can shift and why is everything so shit and give me wine and I hate my life and fuck you asshole for cutting me up on the motorway!!!!
But when you have control of your mind, this doesn’t happen. Because you don’t allow those bad thoughts to dig in. You don’t take them seriously. You sit, silently and quietly for a few seconds and remember that you’re only feeling your thinking and who the fuck cares, it’s only a stink and then you get back to feeling good and giddy and like the master of all your survey – WHICH YOU ARE.
When you gain control of your mind you’ve gained control of everything. And I mean everything. I mean the food that you put in your mouth, your behaviour, your actions, your reactions. You gain control of the whole friggin’ crap show. And the sexy part is, it stops being crap.
So enjoy your policy of saying no to free food because it’s actually opening the door to a much wider power that will begin circulating in your life – the power you have over yourself. And this is seriously the master-key to life’s abundance (as well as a flat stomach). Think about it. This is not about a handful of peanuts, it’s never been about that. The nuts are symbolic of a wider problem that exists in society – we don’t recognise the power to gain control of our minds is there for the taking, nor that there’s a reason for doing so.
So be smart. Don’t look at having to decline free food as a burden, a chore, something to be endured so you can finally fit back into those jeans that have been taunting you in your cupboard for three years. Look at it as the first step in pulling yourself into line and then sit back and watch the magic unfold.
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