Until you realise a yearning / pining / longing / craving to eat has no power over you and therefore you are resilient enough to handle it being there, without acting on it, it will have power over you.
A yearning to eat will always control you until you realise it has no power to do that.
The moment you realise the yearning has no power, you strip it of its power.
So what’s controlling you?
You’re actually being controlled by the misunderstanding that you are not resilient enough to handle the craving being there without giving in to it. But when you see the yearning / pining / longing / craving feeling can’t MAKE you act, you suddenly realise you are resilient enough to have it be there, without any bother.
So your goal to be rid of your eating problems is to see the powerlessness of your cravings. It’s instant. It happens with spontaneous insight. When it happens it’s like the chain that has been bolting you and food together in a weird and uncomfortable tangle, falls away. You realise you can actually just experience these yearning feelings, all day long if necessary, without any drama.
But you don’t have to sit back and passively wait for an insight to drop by, you can begin to prove to yourself what I’m saying here is true and begin inching yourself towards it. You see, the act of treating these yearnings / cravings as powerless serves as both proof it’s true and as a tool to make it become true.
A challenge for you:
When your meal is ready, before you’ve had one bite and the urgent “eat this now” yearning feeling is invariably there and thumping away in your chest, do something else, quickly, like go for a two minute walk, or do all the washing up. It sounds small and inconsequential, but what this act of disobedience does is it sends the message to your brain that you can’t be controlled by its furious and insistent yearnings TO. EAT. NOW any more, so it stops sending them so strongly. Because you can’t be controlled by them, in truth. Kidding yourself you can be is not the same thing.
What also happens is you see with your own eyes the strength and resiliency you have to tolerate these feelings, without having to go along with them. That is handy to know because then, every time you experience this unpleasant feeling you get an opportunity to prove you are resilient and strong enough to handle it, and you get the opportunity to make yourself even stronger and more resilient so you CAN handle it. Until you’re basically Wonder Woman.
Seen in this light, can you even class the yearning feeling as unpleasant anymore?
If you get to prove to yourself you’re comfortable with discomfort, I tell you, there’s nothing you need to be scared of again. And your habits? They’re toast.